I have one more basic rule for dating before moving on to my more subtle, personal practices: two people should like each other if they are going to date each other.
It seems this would be clear to anyone, but I've seen many, many friends completely ignore the fact that their intended has clearly checked the "NO" box on their secret love note. Sometimes the opposite is true, as well: I myself have dated people I was pretty sure I didn't even like... just to be sure.
Trust your instincts people! Does she say she likes you and wants to continue dating, but gives you non-verbal cues that she doesn't and never seems to want to see you? Dump her (or at least ask what's up and then dump her). Has he left you but still wants to be friends and you're hanging on his every word/movement looking for signs that he wants you back? Get a new friend. Have you seen lots of red flags on the first few dates you've been on, but want to give her the benefit of the doubt? Don't.
I can't believe I have to say this, but you should like the person you are dating and they should like you... a lot, even. Like does not conquer all, however. More to come on that.
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