My last disaster of a relationship taught me many things. Things about myself and how I date, who I date, etc. For next time I have made myself a set of warning signs. I have had some minor set-backs but I think that these were just reminders that these rules are helpful to interpersonal sanity. Sometimes you have all the answers and you just have found a way to stop listening.
Have you ever given your friends advice that you never take for yourself?
Like, if he won’t tell you his last name, maybe you shouldn’t sleep with him.
If he says that he doesn’t want a relationship right now, maybe you shouldn’t get upset that he puts an end to your hanging out and still acts mixed messagy.
(I am talking about men, because I have only dated men, but I think you could just as easily insert some she(s) in here and it would totally make sense. Although I don't think I have ever heard a female say "I am not feeling the whole relationship thing right now")
These next few posts will be written about rules/red flags we have made for ourselves and effort to stick to them or see those flags when they are so blatantly waving in our faces. Whether we listened to ourselves or fell into the same cyclical traps.
Maybe at this point I should mention that we almost named this blog after Liz Phair's song "Fuck and Run." I never realized how popular that song was in the cathartic blog-o-sphere, maybe you should think about that as you read these next few posts.
No comments:
Post a Comment